Dating in college for guys
I finally felt like I had met someone who actually understood me and cared for me. It turns out he was just like every guy I’ve met thus far in college: selfish and self-absorbed.He always walked me home after a date to make sure I got home safe. I had had crushes on a few other guys before I finally settled into that relationship, but every one of them seemed to have this similar way of thinking that I could not understand.And now for the guys that I rejected or maybe/ possibly could have had a shot with who I came up with reasons not to pursue: the guy with the well-groomed dreadlocks who brought me a VHS tape of a bootleg Tori Amos concert on our second date (too nice), the guy in my creative writing class who asked me to get coffee a couple of times (kind of awkward, wore bad shoes), the older guy who took me to see “Welcome to the Dollhouse” (short and trollish), the guy in my dorm who I had a crush on who showed me his photo portfolio (out of my league, didn’t seem interested), the only dude in my feminism and theater class who wasn’t gay and who asked me if I wanted to study with him (a little too in tune with the female plight … When my nice boyfriend and I broke up and the guy that I left him for that I was nice dumped me seven months later, I found myself spending a great deal of time thinking about those guys from college, the ones who got away.I had this distinct thought that if I had made better dating choices in college, that it might have set me up for better dating success later on. Then my next thought was: I should find these guys.
Most of them seem to hate the idea of any type of commitment.I personally don't think all guys that go after younger ones are doing it because they are easily influenced, because sometimes they aren't. These relationshops will reqlly work oit if you guys try to make it possible.Sometimes, people really connect with others, and it's rough when age limits it. Many people may not like the age difference, but many will still support you if you show you really love her. I don't know what you plan to do, but don't let the age difference stop you.A free woman, my college dating career devolved into a series of mistakes wherein I consistently said YES to the wrong guys and NO to the right ones.I could roll the list out before you like double ply toilet paper: the guy with the infected tongue ring, the prematurely balding guy who invited me over to his dorm room to watch a James Bond movie (translation: try to get me to blow him), the guy in the wheelchair (who was really amazing until he left me for a girl who ended up moving in across the hall from me), the much older alcoholic who worked at a nightclub, the guy who told me I was “maladroit” when I fell off the hammock on his dorm balcony and then gave me a copy of Nietzsche’s to read if we were “ever going to get along,” the guy who left me for a porn star while I was studying abroad, the boyfriend who told me he was going on a road trip to New Mexico and then I never heard from him again. I feel like I don’t need to because you’re probably getting a solid picture of the poor choices I made. In my early 20’s, when I finally landed a nice, normal boyfriend who wanted to go on walks and eat salads and play guitar while I sang, I wondered, for the first time, why I dated such dicks in college. My level of self-awareness wasn’t super keen at age 23.