My boyfriend is dating other women
So rather than worry and wonder about what he might be doing, let go of it and realize that you really don’t have any control over him or anyone else. You might say to me, “Well, Eric, that’s because she’s You’ll notice that the women who have effortless success in their dating life absorb themselves in enjoying their life and the world around them, not fixating on internal worries or trying to control the behavior of others.
They focus on having a great relationship with the people around them…
not trying to acquire a relationship or boyfriend as if they were trying to acquire a new handbag or pair of heels.
If you want a great relationship, then focus on having a great relationship.
Until then, it’s all speculation, hope, fantasy, desire, wishful thinking, and potential. What I’m writing about is what you make all of this dating stuff MEAN. remember the phone session we had last month where we were looking at one of the guys who had written to me on Match.
See, you’re identifying each man as the problem here. After all, if 50% of all guys are going to disappoint, then this behavior is utterly predictable. But then after exchanging several emails and a few phone conversations, he told me he was dating someone else and that he would call if things didn’t work out, and I was a bit upset by that. She doesn’t assume that they’re “together” because they kissed.
This is long, so make sure you have 5 minutes to yourself. Maybe you’ve been emailing and talking on the phone every night for a week.
He often texts me first and we seem to really get along well and like him a lot.
If he has another girlfriend on the sly, you shouldn't waste your time on him. It is really difficult to deal with guys who womanize or have secret and illicit affairs because someone is bound to get hurt in the process, and it usually isn't him.
The devastation and damage left in the wake of this kind of self-centered, narcissistic man is unconscionable In fact, every person, both women, all women, any children" everyone involved with this manipulative man is adversely affected.
and if they don’t do what you want, you are entitled to punish them, shame them, berate them, invade their privacy, etc. Worry leads to desperation, desperation leads to acting needy, acting needy leads to the guy wanting nothing to do with you. Don’t fixate on him – consider yourself on the dating market until he specifically and clearly locks you down into a relationship.
It’s ridiculous and insane, but common and therefore accepted by the masses as “the way it is.” The fact of the matter is: you can’t control anyone but yourself. And at the end of the day, everyone (including you) is going to do whatever they want to do. Moreover, you’ll find that the women that have the most success in their dating life don’t pay attention to things like worrying about what the guy is doing or “plotting and scheming” how to control the guy’s behavior.